Why Are You Still Single? An Average Joe's Take On What's Really Going On In The Dating Pool And What You Can Do To Stay Afloat (ePub)

"I am so over dating."

As singles, we may have heard this statement echoed many times within our immediate dating circles. Friends have stated it. Many in our social networks have stated it. Even we may have stated it at one time or another. Many singles have reached such a level of frustration with dating that is has caused them to throw up their hands in defeat. But are they honestly over dating?

Not exactly.

At one time or another, almost every member of the active singles community will have stated that yes, he or she is over dating. But the reality is that most are not. No matter how many times singles completely swear dating off, they continue to entertain the idea that the person of their dreams is out there, so they keep trying. But many are having trouble sifting through what the dating world serves up, and are continually bumping up against issues that prevent them from realizing their dreams, which is why, for most, dating has become exasperating.

When posing the question, "Why are you still single?" to those who are active in the dating pool of the present day, you will likely hear replies such as:

"I'm too old."
"I'm too intimidating."
"I have trust issues."
"No one will date me."
"I want someone who'll match my time and effort."
"I haven't found a serious and decent guy who wants more than a hookup."
"Women don't appreciate good men."
"Something out of my control prevents things from going further."
"I haven't met a guy who's character I can trust."
"I held onto someone for years hoping they would change."
"I don't trust myself to make good decisions."

Although in recent years, dating has seemingly become an exercise in futility, and outside factors beyond our control play a part in the lack of success we experience as daters, the truth is, we as individuals have made it much harder on ourselves, if not more so, than the dating world has on us.

When we take a step back and look at society as a whole, we find that failing to connect to ourselves and to others in a meaningful way is our biggest problem. And nowhere is this more apparent than in the sub-section of society known as the available singles pool. Those that are actively swimming in its turbulent waters are having a difficult time making sense of what they are seeing, hearing, and experiencing, so it's not surprising that dating has become a casualty of the dysfunctional society of the present day.

But there are things you can do to making your personal dating life a more pleasurable, enjoyable, and ultimately, successful endeavor.

In the first part of this book, Vince Guaglione take a deep dive into the issues that plague today's dating world, how those issues affect the entire dating community, and how they have created an environment that has resulted in dating being held in such low regard by those who are currently immersed in it.

The second part of the book offers up helpful advice, tips, and strategies for navigating the current dating world, and provides guidance on how to make effective and efficient use of your dating time and effort, while providing some simple and effective concepts which, when implemented, will set you up for dating success.

If you're single and are trying to make sense of the dating world, you will find something of value within these pages. It's a guide that will provide insight into what's really going on in the dating pool, and will aid you in creating a solid plan for remaining afloat.